Judgemental people.

Hey guys.

I guess everyone know that judging a person can be really wrong sometimes and it can kinda make you feel guilty especially if that person whom you were judging is your friends. Well, judging is a mean thing but when it comes to making a wise decision for your own good purpose, judging means nothing. Don't get me wrong when i say its nothing, sometimes you have to judge someone and make sure your judgements are right about them so as not to let yourself get hurt. Some people with sociable personality are always going around starting the ball rolling first by introducing themselves to other people they just met, some are blinded of how others would look at them just because they're too friendly. They are clueless that people are already judging cos most of the humans take your friendliness as fake and two-faced if you just pop out from no where out of a sudden.

When you have been around with most of your friends regularly, you'll start to discover their true personality and how they treat you. Girls are like animals, they can sense things pretty well and they are sensitive to the atmosphere when they know dramas are coming. That's why guys can't keep a secret from their girlfriends for too long cos eventually every truth will be right infront of you in the shortest period of time. As you people already know, guys and guys can be really friendly towards each other if they just introduce themselves with respect. For girls and girls, it will take quite awhile to build up the atmosphere cos both parties are as awkward and some girls might even give you that deadly stare for nothing. You can already picture it as a whole piece, some girls can never get along well with other girls and i've got no idea why despite knowing the fact that i'm a female as well. We girls are just as confused, we just don't know why we're made this way.

My past memories in Secondary School are not quite a good one, from Sec 1 to Sec 4 is drama all the way and it never stops. Most of the girls in my class are always the enemy of one another, one problem solved then another one comes out. It made me realized that being around with guys can make me feel more relax and be myself, of cos there should be boundaries made. Girls are always giving me problems in Secondary School and they just kept bitching like no one's business like as if i owe them a damn living. Bitch please, i don't live to please you people anymore. I don't know why i was a coward in the past, maybe back then friends were the most important people in the world for me. What a stupid theory i've made to deceive myself that them using me all the time was alright, i could have taken the rights to not let them climb over me but i failed. Their judgements just kept growing and growing, more and more nasty each day. Crying everyday seems to be a routine, it was killing me.

So then i decided to hang around more with guys, i honestly have no intentions towards the males. I just want to be myself and be set free from all the dramas, my guy friends accepted me for who i am and not what i'm not. Unlike the girls in my class, they're just plain fake and shitty. Only some are trustable and some are the ones who will stay till the end for you, that's why they have been the bestest of the best till now and it never change. That's why i say judging at that moment for me should be taken place, i should've known them better and not let them into my life so quickly just because of how good they treated me for the passed few days. It is good to let all those people who made you so exhausted each day go, they don't deserve your friendship when they're the ones trying to ruin it with their own bare hands. Give your energy to people who are looking out for you, cos they are the ones who needs your attention and affection. Make good judgements, and you won't get hurt.

For that passed many years, i'm really happy to have make such wonderful new friends. Some actually accepted who i really am, while some judges me in things that are not even true. I guess i've finally learned to be wise in choosing my friends, learning to be wise in choosing your friends also requires judging. Its not a judgmental statement you should make to bring that person down, but simply make that judgment so as to protect yourself from all the passed nightmares you have experience back then. You got to face the fact that everyone judges each other, be it friends or family. You guys might state a quote saying : 'Don't judge me, you don't know my story.' Sad thing is, no one actually gave that sentence any meaning. They just use that phrase to tell people not to judge them when indeed, they themselves are judging people as well. The world is really fair, you judge people, people judge you back. You can't shut the mouth of other people's opinion or judgments, you can only sit back and listen while raging so much inside. What's the use of fighting back when things will eventually end up so pointless?

People wants you to be yourself, but still end up bitching about you. Seriously, you can't always please people everyday. Its really tiring to always have to wake up each day thinking who to please and how to make a good impression. People will take notice of you as the time goes by, stop trying to fit in into any society when you are born to stand out. People's judgements can bring you down, but always remember that when someone judges you, there are other people judging them as well. The world is indeed fair, you get back what you did to other people. This is not call karma, this is called a lesson learned. If you want to be labeled as someone with good qualities, then start living your life with values. I'm not saying that you should stop judging everyone, like i said humans are made in a way to judge no matter how many times you ask them to stop judging. This is a never ending process, is also a learning process to mind your own business and not accept their judgements about you.

LIVE YOUR LIFE AS IT IS, AND MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS.